One of the most common themes that show up in therapy among the women that I work with is not being good enough. Honestly, most of the time those that I work with don’t necessarily realize at first how much of what they do and struggle with is as a result of not feeling like they are good enough. They have experiences that have reinforced the fact that they aren’t good enough. They really hold onto these experiences, again without even realizing how much it’s impacted them.
As I am sitting across from these lovely people, it's an interesting experience. It’s hard for me to see what these women are seeing themselves. I feel like as a therapist I get to know my client’s struggles pretty intimately. They share their mistakes, the terrible things that have happened to them and I think they are amazing and incredible. They don’t see it though. They seem to believe everyone else around them is doing much better than they are.
You don’t have to be perfect to be good enough now
The need to be perfect can be absolutely overwhelming and paralyzing. Many perfectionists that I work with don’t even realize they are perfectionistic because they are of the mindset if they can’t be completely perfect they aren’t even going to try. This is still perfectionism, and it can be taxing on your mental health. I know when you are trying to perfect all the time you are really trying to manage your anxiety. When you deal with perfectionism you may not realize that it doesn’t actually help your anxiety long term. The effects are only short-lived.
You are good enough regardless of what you have or haven’t accomplished. It’s ok to be human, and it’s good enough.
If you’re struggling with perfectionism, anxiety therapy can help
If you struggle with being perfectionism, anxiety therapy can help you unpack all of the negative beliefs that you have about yourself. I’m sure that doens’t sound like much fun but it’s something that can be life-changing and help you feel better about yourself. Anxiety therapy can help you challenge these beliefs you hold onto and help you work through past experiences that might be at the core of your perfectionism.
Looking for an anxiety therapist located in Utah?
You don’t have to keep struggling with perfectionism. Therapy can help. This Utah County Counseling Clinic has an anxiety therapist who can help! To begin therapy follow these steps below:
Meet with an anxiety specialist
Begin feeling better
Other counseling services offered at Maple Canyon Therapy
Anxiety Therapy isn’t the only counseling service I provide at this Provo Utah Area Counseling Practice. Other mental health services offered at Maple Canyon Therapy include EMDR therapy, birth trauma, eating disorder therapy, body image therapy, and binge eating disorder treatment in Utah.