What’s the Root Cause of Perfectionism?

Perfectionism is a trait that many of the women I work with grapple with, driven by a strong desire for flawlessness and an intense fear of failure. But what lies at the root of this persistent pursuit of perfection? Anxiety therapy can shed light on the causes that contribute to these perfectionistic tendencies. In this blog, we will explore how perfectionism unravels the impact of anxiety on fear of failure, the need for control, cognitive biases, unrealistic standards, intense self-criticism, the anticipation of consequences, and more.  As an anxiety therapist, I believe delving into the relationship between symptoms of anxiety and perfectionism, you can gain more insight into yourself and find better ways of coping with anxiety.

Anxiety often serves as one of the root causes underlying the development of perfectionism. Here are some ways in which anxiety contributes to perfectionistic tendencies:

1. Fear of Failure and Criticism

Anxiety fuels a deep-seated fear of making mistakes or being seen negatively by others. Perfectionists often believe that any imperfection or failure will result in rejection, humiliation, disappointment, or judgment from others. As a result, they strive for perfection as a way to prevent or minimize these anxieties. Anxiety treatment can help you work through where the fear of judgment might stem from. 

2. Need for Control and Certainty

Anxiety is frequently driven by a need for control and a desire to avoid uncertainty. Perfectionists, driven by their anxieties, seek to have control over their environment, actions, and outcomes. They believe that if they can achieve perfection, they can prevent potential anxiety symptoms and use control as a way of coping with anxiety. 

2. Catastrophic Thinking and Cognitive Biases

Anxiety often leads to cognitive distortions and catastrophic thinking patterns. Perfectionists tend to engage in all-or-nothing thinking, believing situations as either perfect or complete failure with no middle ground. They may also make a bigger deal of their mistakes, using a single error as evidence to support that they are incompetent or not good enough. These untrue thoughts intensify anxiety and further increase perfectionistic behaviors. Working with an anxiety therapist can help you change your thinking and beliefs about yourself. 

3. Unrealistic Standards and Intense Self-Criticism

Anxiety-driven perfectionists set unreasonably high standards for themselves. They constantly strive to meet or exceed these standards, driven by a relentless fear of falling short. The fear of making a mistake or being judged harshly by others amplifies their self-critical inner voice, reinforcing the belief that perfection is the only acceptable outcome. Clients in anxiety counseling recognize where these unrealistic standards come from and learn ways to be more self-compassionate. 

4. Anxious Anticipation of Consequences

Anxiety can create a heightened anticipation of potential negative consequences. Perfectionists frequently engage in overthinking and excessive planning to prevent mistakes or prepare for every possible outcome. They become preoccupied with the future, constantly worrying about the repercussions of any perceived imperfections. Anxiety therapy can help you cope differently with anxiety and fear of consequences. 

While anxiety can be a significant driver of perfectionism, it is important to know that there may have unique combinations of underlying factors contributing to your perfectionistic tendencies. Understanding the role of anxiety in perfectionism can help you in finding different ways of coping and challenging your perfectionism.

Anxiety therapy in Utah can help with perfectionism 

Anxiety therapy in Utah can be really helpful for women dealing with perfectionism. Working with an anxiety therapist can provide support and guidance to you if you are struggling with the pressure to be perfect. I am here to create a safe and understanding space where you can talk about your fears and worries. During anxiety counseling sessions, you can learn about why you feel the need to be perfect and how to handle those feelings in a healthier way.  As an anxiety counselor, I am here to help challenge their negative thoughts and develop self-compassion. With anxiety therapy in Utah, you can gain the tools and coping skills to manage your perfectionistic tendencies and lead a more balanced and satisfying life.

Start working with an anxiety therapist in Utah 

Don't let the pressure to be perfect hold you back from living a fulfilling life. Anxiety therapy can help. This Utah Counseling Clinic has a therapist for anxiety who can help you manage your anxiety symptoms. To begin anxiety treatment follow the steps below: 

  1. Schedule a free 15-minute phone consultation 

  2. Meet with an anxiety counselor

  3. Find freedom from perfectionism